How to Fill-up Your Cup of Kindness
- Dr Tshidi M Wyllie,PhD.
- Jul 3
- 3 min read
“I want to share a tip, which I think some of you may find very helpful. Every day, we find ways to treat others with kindness, right?
We try to go out of our way to be nicer, polite, loving to other people, taking the focus of ourselves, taking the focus of what is going on inside our hearts. So I want to say to you, it's good that you're doing that, but if you've never tried it, maybe it's time you started trying that. Find ways to treat others with kindness, taking the focus of yourself for a change.
That will help you to try not to live inside of your head for a moment. And the best thing that can help you to do that is, let me give you this scenario. Imagine that everyone walks around with an invisible empty cup.
You should be thinking and visualizing this and saying, how can I fill their cup with kind words and kind behavior? How can I fill up their cup with kind words and kind behavior? What can I do that can stimulate them, motivate them, and show empathy, compassion to another person, rather than thinking about myself all the time?
Practising this skill helps to give your brain a break from dwelling on the negative situation that you maybe finding yourself in. It helps you take your mind briefly from your situation. Better still, you can even draw a picture of a cup.
Some may find this very silly.
Draw a picture of a cup, and imagine that cup belongs to somebody close to you, your partner, your husband, your friend, your brother, your sister, your uncle, your mom, your dad, somebody close to you that you've never said kind words to. And come up with a list of kind words and ways of kindness that you could fill up their cup.
Even though people are not perfect, they may have done some things that were hurtful and painful to you, but for once, focus on the positive things about them. There may be few, you may say, but that person is an awful person. There must be something, however, that you may find good about them; they may have some strength.
There may be something that is positive about them. And don't forget to share that with that particular person that you picked , “that you are just going to fill up their cup with positive and kind words. Whilst you fill their cup with kind words, also consider what positive behavior, actions you could take towards reaching out to them to show kindness.
After having done that, don't forget now to go back to focusing on yourself, and imagining your own cup. If you were to fill up your cup with kind words and actions of kindness towards you, towards yourself, to show self love, self compassion, self empathy, what will that look like? So, on your diary or your journal, just draw that cup if you can, be creative. Make it as colourful as you can.
Use different colours to write different words and ways of compassion and kindness towards yourself. And then similarly; come up with a list of actions of kindness, and empathy towards yourself.
If you were to do something nice, something really good that will make you feel good about yourself, what will that be and how will that look like?
That's just a simple tip I wanted to share. Have lovely, self- loving- day as you fill up your cup of kindness.
From New Beginnings CounsellingBW: A Cup of Kindness:
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